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April 21, 2018

To live a good life and enjoy the happiness of life. When life comes to the world, we run east to west to make money. Why is it always high and why it is more and more tired. You can taste it sourly and bitterly, no matter if you say it or not. No one suffers from pain, no culture does not work. Over the mountains to climb, the work is manual labor, c, the boss will be your brush, and want to survive to make more money, go there to discuss, do not have the ability to be strong, honest and work best. Life should be so live, and the gods have nothing to do with you. Happy life for a long time, leaving no regrets the easiest. It is not easy for people to live alive. They struggle to fight the West. Do not eat or drink money, eyes closed after empty hands. After leaving Jinshan as a whole, they only cry for several times. When they are alive, they do not perform filial piety. When they die, they become heroic heroes. They have been ups and downs for a lifetime. They have experienced life and have experienced great ups and downs. They feel overjoyed, even if it is not easy. You have to face it yourself. It's hard for you to stop yourself and you're tired.

Life always loves to say: Days will always be better than a day. In fact, this is only self-consolation when people are in adversity. In this life, as long as life does not end, there will be endless suffering, endless sins and unpleasant lifestyles. Just a slight difference in each period. Recently I do not know how disorderly thoughts disorder, physically and mentally exhausted. How it became a slave to emotions. Efforts to control yourself can always be annoying to heartbreak. Eating is not fragrant and sleep is not stable. Too depressed, too bad, too hard, the whole person is simply going to collapse. Good times and bad times are like thinking a lot, and it seems like the brain is blank. It was so hard. How can you get tired over these days? People have a lot of rough life, and they have spent the rest of their lives in the last empty hand! A line is not hanging away, everything wants to open, for their own lives, all unpleasant things that it will pass it, as long as you are happy on the line! It is really difficult for people to live once! Not only do you have to be kind to yourself, you have to be responsible for it. Even if you are tired again, you have to take responsibility. You can't just give up.
In the year of doubtlessness, more and more responsibilities have to be shouldered, and the pressure is so great that there are old and young. The old man needed to support him. Before he thought that the child was big, he should have worked better. Little did they know that the way to use big money had only just begun. They also had to worry about his work and had to worry about his marriage. In these years, for the family, for children. You save your food, and you don't want to buy a decent dress for yourself. You don't want to make up your makeup like any other woman. You dress up beautifully and you don't want to eat a big meal outside. Lifeline has walked 3/5 to look at his old face, why live so tired! Doomed to be unusual in life, big things, small things, good things and bad things, criss-crossing. The experience is a bit overwhelming and unprepared. If people are too relaxed for a lifetime, they will be easy to float. Too hard will be easy to sink! So it is still down to earth! Don't float too high. No one will fall down and pick you up. Don't sink too deep. Nobody pulls you! Or do your own thing well, manage your own home and live a life of peace of mind.
There is nothing in this world that can't fit. When you leave, anyone will loosen his hands. All the enmities and disappointments will vanish, so love must be loved first, and warm people must warm up first! Life is only between breath and breath; life is nothing but a moment. Between people, it is only an understanding; between the edge and the edge, it is only a kind of cherish; between wrong, it is only a forgiveness. Earthly harassment, noisy quarrels, right and wrong, and it is not necessary to study who is right or wrong. Forgiving people who hurt you is love for yourself; hating someone is torture. People who are hated don't realize it, but they will make them infinitely miserable. Nothing in the world will always belong to you, including your favorite people, raised children, including your wealth, your body, and eventually return to dust. Therefore, everything has its fate, and it cannot be forced. Life is like a guest, happy and happy to go. The most important thing in life is to grasp the present! Do not seek stability, just for heart, but also have the courage to work hard, but also have the courage to live.

Life is no longer young, the body can not live without too much consumption, drink less, smoke less, stay up late; feelings can not stand much squandering, more contact, more concerned about, and more treat; time can not afford too much waste, Work hard, persist, and cherish! Although we are no longer young, we are still passionate about life. Although we are no longer young, our faces are still full of smiles. Love, miss, all through. Good things and bad things are all past events. It's the most important thing to spend the rest of our lives. Some words are good enough, don't take it seriously; some things are well-known, let alone broken; some people see it well, don't take it away; some love is good, don't cling. There must be no harm to the heart, and the heart of humanity cannot be avoided. People across the belly, know people do not know. To see the roots of flowers and flowers, pay attention to see! Don't try to find people, it will disappoint you. There is love without love, and be treated with safety. Who is good and who is bad, I understand in my heart. Who is right or wrong? Who is really fake, time proved. Years of cruelty, one burden ahead; want to live in peace, you must look at the past on the line.
It's not easy for people to spend a lifetime, too hard to get it, so it's good to be down-to-earth. Don't worry too much, do your own thing, manage your home, and be realistic, and be comfortable in your life! Do not be so perfect in pursuit of perfection. Why is it so stubborn, why is always bound by that ridiculous self-esteem, face. Why do you always want to fulfill others? Why not be as selfish as others. Why do you have to make yourself so tired, so exhausted, don’t be indebted to yourself, don’t waste your life, say it right, but people, ah, for the sake of the family, for the children to be able to get ahead, who can do not owe themselves, Tired, busy, hard-working, want to open, think about not owed himself. At this moment, I want to hold myself tight. Say sorry! Suffering, I haven't taken care of you in these years. All things in life are falling apart, and in the following days, it is difficult for them to make a living, to feel like they are tired, to take care of themselves, live a happy life, live a happy life, live a good life, and enjoy the happiness of life.
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April 21, 2018


Life can start at any time, even if only 24 hours of life are left.
　　If one can still think and still have a dream, one can certainly start his own life again.
　　But why, sometimes we know we are wrong, we must continue to be wrong, or have been in deep pain, but still do not want to flee? In the "dare not" or "dismay" to trap yourself in a dilemma? If you know that this road is not suitable for you, then the result of going further is just a loss. Why not immediately give up and start over?
　　Japanese writer Nakajima Kaoru once said: "Thinking that you can't do it is just an illusion. Before we started to do something, we often considered whether we could do it. Then we began to doubt ourselves. This is a very wrong idea."
　　Life can be restarted at any time, there is no age limit, no gender distinction, as long as we have the determination and confidence, dreams, even at the age of 70 can be achieved.
　　There is a movie about a young man, because the woman she has longed for is married to a rich businessman. Since then, he has given up on himself, broken cans, and drunk every day. The people in the town met him and looked around. The people who walked by had evaded them and were afraid that they would provoke trouble.
　　An old man who was prestigious in the town saw him like this, and he scolded him: "If you have the ability, you will chase her back."
　　"However, she is already married to someone else." The young man said with a plaintive voice.
　　"If you have the ability, you have the opportunity, you still have time, you need to be refreshed!" The old man said rightly.
　　"But I have nothing, I am afraid there is no hope." The young man complained.
　　"You still have today. You still have tomorrow. You still have the strength." The old man said.
　　Under the auspices of the elderly, the young people finally took up the courage to leave the town and go far away....
　　Three years later, the young man returned to the town and found the old man who taught him. The old man told him that the woman had married the rich man. The young man smiled and said: "Everything has passed. You taught me not to marry a woman but to teach me the truth. This is the most important thing."
　　Today is an end and a start. Yesterday’s success or failure, it’s a good time to start again and start your own life again. Yesterday failed. It does not matter. Forget it today, sum up the lessons of failure, and continue new efforts. Even if it was a success yesterday, we still need to start again today and continue to work hard on the basis of success to strive for more brilliant progress.
　　Life is a process of constant resumption. There can be new beginnings, new hopes, and new skies at any time.
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April 21, 2018

Life is not as good as it is, so we are always dissatisfied. People's satisfaction is divided into two types, one for oneself and one for the outside world. We can't control the outside world. The outside world often makes us unpleasant. If we don't catch the last train today, we block traffic in the morning when we go to work. These unpleasant outsiders will inevitably affect our own dissatisfaction. Is it natural for me? Life is not good, bad things all accounted for, is not it natural, why so many unsatisfactory?
　　At this time, people will have a feeling of self-complaining. When they talk about this self-complacement, they can temporarily put themselves in the realm of their own self, segregate the unpleasant facts with the outside world, and generate an emotional complexion. To put it simply, let the unlucky facts be converted into an inner emotion. Instead of considering the fact itself, let it be with emotions.
　　This can allow us to forget the facts for a while and experience a painful emotion. If you can overcome self and use strong inner strength to resolve this, then the person that ushered in is “the tomorrow when the sun is still rising”. However, some people will be immersed in a depressed state of emotions, and they will not extricate themselves.
　　This is a very dangerous situation. They will complain about grievances and they will also resent themselves. Under normal circumstances, people who have been in such complexes for a long time are not caused by just those unlucky things, but they have previously Having suffered great traumatic wounds and painful experiences for a long time, these unlucky things are merely an introduction. When they meet, they think of the painful experiences of the past. At this time, it is easy to fall into a spiritual crisis.
　　When people encounter these situations, the correct approach is to accept the facts and accept them. If past events have passed, let them be the past, say goodbye to the past, do a good job of the present, and do a good job right now. Things. Take it as a matter of course, for the sake of what you have done, the past cannot be changed, then change the present and the future.
　　At this time, some people will say that it is in such a depressed state. What should we do? What I want to say is that your downfall is a result of "thinking." Your focus is on thinking. If you want to convert "thinking" into "doing", then your attention will change. Then, you will change your current feelings, and enter another feeling. At this time, the downfall will be interrupted. You may be in another dimension and change yourself.


　　"Doing" means to do things. If you keep working, you will not have the opportunity or time to think about experiencing bad emotions. After a boy had lost his love, he was in deep pain. His parents advised him to find a job. He found a programmer's job. In order to get rid of the pain, he devoted himself wholeheartedly to his work. Resting, and later being appreciated by the boss, not only the salary increase, but also the head of the technical department. The boys in this real story are the examples of successful work that divert attention and get rid of the pain of losing romance. There are always many disappointments in people's life, but when they are unhappy, we should believe that any problem is a solution. Sometimes we change our minds and change one way.
　　Human life is actually a manifestation of energy. When this energy of ours is blocked in this way, we will change another way. When our energy is blocked in this time and space, and it is not open, we may change it. A place is new. Our unsatisfactory discomfort is that our life energy is not smooth, there is no free flow, and all we have to do is to meet the right people in search of the right place, so that we can smoothly.
　　We do not have the obligation or the means to satisfy everyone, but we should most satisfy ourselves and make ourselves happy. The road to happiness is also our journey of lifelong struggle. We must work hard to prove our strength and value. . Diligent and conscientious work will make us seldom fall into a spiritual crisis. It will make us a realist. Of course, it will also make us more successful.


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April 21, 2018


Life is just like time and it is the same for everyone. However, because of the differences in people's thinking, thinking, and attitudes, there are different situations in life. Some people live in poverty, some live in peace and tears, and some live in peace.
　　In the face of such a disheartening life, naturally, you will complain or complain. However, we may have conducted in-depth analysis and thinking. Why can people do well and you can't do it well? In many cases, we are too concerned about the wealth our own family or parents accumulate for us or the material basis for us to be too weak. We put all excuses and reasons on our parents. If it is just that, it is not an exaggeration, if we don’t Efforts lead to their lives as inferior to others or as parents' sins, so this is too bad.
　　The only thing that parents can give us is life. This is already the greatest gift of nature to us. We must not be grateful but we must ungrate us or return enmity. This is our greatest sin. In fact, we should be more aware of our own situation and the difference with others, and find the direction and goal of their own struggle, and continue to work hard and change. If you just complain or whisper, that may be the same for a lifetime.


　　People everywhere who are born humble, poor in their family, and suffer badly are all around us, but they can live free and happy, and how can you not? This is what we should think about. It should be clear: "There is no use for complaining, and everything is on your own." Because in this world we can only rely on ourselves, why? Because you depend on others, others cannot help or serve you forever. One day they will leave you. Because you depend on your parents, parents cannot always treat you as a child or leave you growing up. One day they will also leave you; because You rely on relatives and friends, relatives and friends will not be able to help you at all times, and one day they will be helpless.
　　Complaining is actually the biggest hindrance to us. If we start to feel disheartened and frustrated when we encounter a little unsatisfactory or dissatisfaction, the whole person will be so decadently destitute, then no one can save you, who Can not change you, and eventually everyone will really look down on you. We should always maintain a kind of sunny mindset and be confident in life. Because life would not have been so beautiful, then we have no reason not to overdo it. This kind of mentality is actually commendable, but many of us can't do it. Maybe they always think that this is artificial, that is, hypocritical, that is, to force themselves. However, we can carefully observe the people around us. How many of those who complained all day will only succeed? No. On the contrary, those who encounter difficulties and actively seek solutions are basically small accomplishments. This is the difference. This is what you have always wanted to understand. So, your life is not as good as others because you can't eat the pain that others can eat. You don't want to pay as much as others. You don't face or fear the difficulties and setbacks.
　　As the old saying goes, “If you’re suffering from hardships and suffering, and you’re the only person,” it’s telling us that in the face of life’s hardships and tiredness, we’ll only experience the hardships of the world and we’ll persist in our perseverance and perseverance. Character. What we need is actions rather than complaints and complaints. Only actions can solve problems. Complaints can only be regarded as indignant in their own incompetence. Because they do not have the ability or courage to overcome and change, they will resort to excuses and reasons to shirk. Only then will they continue to cherish grievances and eventually confuse themselves and thus consume the valuable time of their lives. To become a superior person, you must overcome the complaining mentality, eliminate grudges, and use a self-confidence that I can do, so that your life is different.
　　If you want to truly live a decent self, then you must face yourself all the time, face your own shortcomings and shortcomings, face up to the unpleasant part of your life, face your own actions and abilities, and then continue to practice Improve yourself in the process and thoroughly say goodbye to complaints, so that you will gain a new self, you will truly transform, brave out of the encirclement of life, step out of the restricted area of ​​comfort and comfort zone, and boldly practice yourself The idea is to overcome all the difficulties in life, only to find a reason for success, not to make excuses for failure. Telling myself that excuses and reasons can only be a perfunctory and coping of others at certain times, but this is also not what I should because I think we should be bold, courageous, courageous, and responsible. Excuse, this vigorous and resolute style is our driving force and weapon. Whenever you encounter some failures or setbacks, you must be clear that you are incapable or insufficiently prepared. You are not aware of yourself or someone else is the first person to get acquainted. Instead of complaining about your fate injustice or complaining that you are not as good as others. This only determines one future achievement and gain between the first and second thoughts. Sometimes when you know where the roots are, you will provide lessons and warnings for your follow-up life. You know what you should try to overcome. What are the capabilities to improve?
　　Instead of using time to complain, it is better to leave this time for thinking, summing up and improving. This is because only by fully applying the time will we not have the time to cranky and will be able to motivate ourselves to work harder and be more aggressive. This intense and fulfilling life is what we must have. If you don’t have time to decadent, have no time to complain, and don’t have time to get bored, then you must be as good as others, and you will feel that you have changed a look. Then you Live a real self. Because each of us has three “I”—false self, self, and true self. Only by stimulating all of my potential and persevering efforts, will we discover the true self and find that we are also excellent. Potentiality, therefore, do not complain about yourself casually, just need to work hard to helplessness, and strive to move yourself on it, then you can have no regrets in life.
　　We come to this world, it seems to be to do something? Therefore, in our long and short life time, we really should make more efforts to complain less, constantly ringing the clarion call of our own to warn ourselves, and constantly motivate ourselves to complain that it is useless. It is indignation over his incompetence.
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March 23, 2018
How to Make Small Talk - You Can Do It!
By Trevor Johnson 

Social communication is a very important part of our social skills. Your ability to interact with others in a free and easy way, with the other party feeling comfortable as well, can be an invaluable asset to you. From time to time, people find themselves in situations where they have to start or engage in informal discussions. This is often known as small talk.

While there are some people who seem to instinctively know how to make small talk, others lack the required social skills to cope with small talk effectively or even at all. Since small talk does not focus on any particular topic, many people find it difficult to manage smoothly without stalling like a deer in headlights or just retreating somewhere else, out of sight.

Situations that call for small talk

There are certain situations where people will be involved in informal conversations. Social settings and events account for the bulk of instances when you will be required, largely by social behavior expectations, to interact with others.

Mostly, these will be with people you know little or nothing about other than maybe their name.

For instance, conversation starters will come in handy at a party, in an office environment, in striking up a conversation with a member of the opposite sex and when you meet strangers, be it at a bus stop or while you are on a flight. In such cases, how well the conversation goes will be largely determined by how one or other of you breaks the ice.

Advantages of chit-chats

The advantages of these conversations and discussions cannot be emphasised enough. A chat of this nature may lead to many benefits in future.

In fact, small talk is one of the best ways that you can meet new people.

In addition, through small talk, you can develop a new interest, friendships can blossom, networking opportunities can be created and everyone involved can be inspired, making them better people in the future.

With the benefits that these seemingly unimportant (even trivial) chit-chats carry, it is important for people to learn the social skills necessary for such informal communication.

Tips on how to make small talk

Using the following tips will result in friendly chats with strangers being fun, informative and memorable rather than scary events that are best avoided at all cost.



  Avoid questions that require yes or no answers - open-ended questions have the advantage of allowing the conversation to flow. Questions that require yes or no answers may just end the talk after the answer, leaving an embarrassed silence.

  Build the conversation - you can ask about the activities or interests that your conversation partner mentions in the course of chatting. This will help you build the conversation.

  Keep abreast of current affairs - small talk is not based on any one particular topic. Therefore, keeping up to date on various issues will help you keep your conversations interesting and informative. Just be sure to avoid controversial issues such as religion or politics.

  Listen to the other person - this is an important communication skill regardless of whether it's small talk or a more in depth conversation. Paying attention will help you be a good listener which is an equally important skill.

  Keep you body language in check. Simple things like not crossing your arms, keeping a respectable gap between you and the other person and smiling all help.

  Practice - being shy does not improve your social skills! However, practice will help make you a better person to converse with.


All in all, the next time you are at the dentist's office, in a bank queue, at a party or a wedding, or any other public event where you meet new people, striking up a conversation should not be difficult.

With the tips I've just given you on how to make small talk, you should begin to find things gradually getting easier.

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You may not become the life and soul of the party but it should help you come out of your shell more often!

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March 23, 2018
How To Get Inner Peace Of Mind In 3 Simple Steps
 By: Michael Lee Platinum Expert Author


Learning how to get inner peace of mind is possible for anyone.

It doesn't matter if you have a violent past that you can't seem to shake, or a tragic history that has been haunting you for years. Who you were has nothing to do with who you can be.

And if you're having negative thoughts about the present or future, that can be overcome as well. In this article, I'm going to share with you 3 simple steps on how to get inner peace of mind.

Step 1: Do The Legwork

Tie up any loose ends if possible. If you want to get peace of mind, you can't just wish it all away. At some point, your past will catch up with you unless you come to terms with it.

Whether you make that phone call to your parents - or you write a letter that you're afraid to send - doesn't matter.

Unless you get yourself to accept what has happened and acknowledge your feelings about it, then you will not be able to find the peace that you're looking for.

Doing the legwork is not anyone's favorite part of the process, but it is a necessary step. Cry if you must or get angry. Ask forgiveness or visit a grave. Just do something!

Step 2: Meditate Everyday

While you are still dealing with the rawness of your feelings (having just done your necessary legwork, you must be feeling vulnerable), it's now time to learn the next step on how to get inner peace of mind.

Meditation, for one, does wonders for a weak disposition. It strengthens not only your mind, but also your spirit.

Every day you meditate brings you closer to finding peace of mind and will come in handy when something unexpected turns up. Meditation allows you to clear your mind and find tranquility within, despite any outside disturbances that may occur.

Step 3: Do Good Deeds

The third step on how to get inner peace of mind is by giving back to society or to anybody you can help. Start with something small like giving clothes to a homeless shelter or volunteering in the soup kitchen.

Every good deed you perform gives you a better purpose in life and a sense that you're doing something worthwhile.

These are just some of the ways on how to get inner peace of mind. No one, not even the most unfortunate soul, can say that nothing can lay their worries to rest.

And those who say it's impossible are just making excuses because there are some things that they'd rather keep buried. Don't be like these people and face what you have to in order to get inner peace of mind.



Author: Michael Lee

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March 23, 2018
Success Skill: Get a Grip on Your Perception
By Delaina Miller


Think of a time you overreacted to something. Maybe you could not remember where you left your keys and you were running late so you reacted by yelling at yourself or someone near you at the time. Remember how frustrated you were with yourself? In the big picture of your life and all you have to offer the world was all the yelling and berating worth it? Did these reactions solve the problem, or even make you feel better? Have you misplaced your keys since? Most likely you answered "no" to all of these except the last one, I bet you have misplaced your keys since then. Therefore the yelling and berating was not worth it because it did not stop you from losing your keys again.

What does losing your keys have to do with building success? Your success is determined by your perception and your perception and success are bound by perspective.

Perspective, which is this case, is an external mental scene that allows us to see things that we might normally overlook. It is through perspective that you gain a big picture view of your life. It is this attribute of perspective that allows us to change our perception, or understanding, of our situation. Perspective, allows us to perceive some situations/events as more important than other situations/events in our lives. In other words, we are able to see inconveniences for what they are: small, tiny hiccups instead of occurrences that derail our general success.

With a larger perception in your mental tool box, you have the ability to not overreact to something that is really insignificant in the big picture of your life. This altered perspective is how successful people alter their perception to see their once thought "failures" as "learning opportunities." The great news is everyone, including you, has the ability to use perspective to change their perception.

When you find yourself in tense situations, stand back for a moment take a deep breath and ask yourself some questions such as: "how can I see this situation differently" or "why am I so upset?" or "what can I learn from this situation?" Questions like these will give you a chance to recognize that you are upset and in reaction mode. They will also help you gain perspective of the situation so that you can take control of your emotions.

Once you have perspective then think about how you answered yourself. It is through the answers that we change our perception of the situation. The answers tell us what is really wrong. To go back to the lost key scenario, through your answers you realized that you were stressed out and are feeling pulled in too many directions. With this new perspective of your emotions you can make some healthy decisions that will help you be more successful. As a result, maybe you decide that you can pick up the dry cleaning tomorrow instead so that you can enjoy your kid's soccer game today.

Whatever your scenario, big or small, by first changing your perspective you can change your perception and then respond in healthy and constructive ways. This larger view of you, your life, and your situation is the key to becoming successful at being you and living a successful life.

Now that you have some ideas on how to gain and use perspective to change your perception of your life situations you can successfully control your reactions. Control over our emotions is an important step to channeling our energies into self empowering, productive, constructive, and successful futures.

Delaina Miller is an Independent Information Professional that enjoys helping others through her writing and research. You can read more her ideas and tips on being successful at http://tunein2life.com

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March 23, 2018
Respect: A Key to a Healthy Relationship
By Delaina Miller

Aretha Franklin has been singing the answer for years. That's right R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Respect is an important key to a healthy relationship. Are thinking to yourself that you have always had respect for your partners but the relationships still failed? You might not be wrong. Respect is a three lane street to a healthy relationship: you must respect yourself, you must respect your partner, and you must respect the relationship.

Respect Yourself

If you want a healthy long-term relationship, first respect yourself. I think that respect and love go hand in hand, otherwise I think the emotion you are feeling is lust, which is - not bad - just a different emotion. The adage goes something to the effect that you must love yourself before you can love someone else. The saying should be: "you must first respect yourself before you can respect and love yourself and anyone else." Why you ask, because if you truly respect yourself you will not settle for less than what you deserve or desire.

When attraction brings all the bells, whistles, and fireworks along with the red flags, dislikes, and full on alarms, respect for yourself will help you to assess your relationship requirements. If this person is Ms or Mr. Right... for now, you have already started to compromise your self-respect. Respect yourself and listen to your hesitations. Now, just to be clear, I am not say don't take the chance, I am saying don't compromise on your values. If Ms or Mr Firework's: lifestyle, demeanor, or whatever goes against your personal values, then chose your values over the gleam in their eye.

Respect Your Partner

If you want a healthy long-term relationship then you have to respect your partner in two ways. For starters, respect them as they are, as they come to you; do not try to change them. If you meet someone and the sparks are flying like mad, but you find yourself thinking things like: "Oh I will change that about them," or "Oh that_____ has to stop/change/end," then read - "Respect Yourself" again. If you cannot love this person as they are then, you do not fully respect who they are. If this is the case respect them enough to set them free, because - like you - they deserve to be loved and respected and someone will love them and respect them.

The other level of respect for your partner is how you talk about them publicly. We all use a little banter in communicating to and about our partners. But that banter should never humiliate, embarrass, or belittle your partner all of these things are actually disrespecting your partner. Again if they bother you so much that your banter has turned to "trash talk," something has gone wrong. Either change your perspective of this person or set them free.

Respect Your Relationship

If you want a healthy long-term relationship then you have to respect your relationship with this person. Most couples come to the relationship table with emotional baggage, from past relationships, and their individual set of values which should include self-respect. Therefore two obvious ways to respect your relationship is leave the emotional baggage in the past, and the second is not to demean the value of the relationship by violating the "rules of engagement."

Let's begin with emotional baggage. For many people the line "once bitten, twice shy," is very true. It is very hard to trust again after we have been hurt, especially if that hurt includes both emotional and physical abuse. But it is very important not to project past relationships on the new relationship. After all, a new relationship deserves a clean slate. Here is an example, when I first started looking for love; I had not learned to respect myself. As a result I managed to get into emotionally and physically abusive relationships. After building some self-respect I found the relationship I am in now, but at the beginning of the relationship I was timid and mistook signals that I had learned from the past relationships to mean the same thing in this relationship. This was unfair and disrespectful to both of us but especially to my current partner who would never hurt me like I had been hurt in the past. So trust me, and leave your emotional baggage in the past.

Next, both of you have come into the relationship with self-respect values that cannot be compromised without violating the other person's self-respect values. For example, if you have agreed to a monogamous relationship, then be respectful of your relationship and honor that agreement.

In the end healthy relationships depend on three layers of respect. Self respect allows us to not get involved in relationships that will only bring us unhappiness. Through respect for your partner you are enabling yourself to love them for who they are and who they will become on their own terms. By respecting your relationship you not only illustrate your love for your partner and yourself, but value the all of potential your love for each other has to offer.

Tuning into your real desires and dreams can be hard with all of the noise we hear every day. We all need a place that allows us to meditate and focus on our individual dreams. At Tune In 2 Life we are passionate about helping you stay focused on your goals, ambitions, and passions.

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March 17, 2018

what is confusion?

Confuse word seeks Latin. it is a side effect that influences you to feel as though you can't think plainly, a circumstance in which individuals don't comprehend what is occurring, circumstance of frenzy or scatter or vague in one's brain about something.You may feel bewildered and experience serious difficulties centering or making decisions.Confusion is likewise alluded to as the state of having lost one's ability to know east from west.

why we get confused to settle on any choice?

As per investigate there are a few reason that I get a kick out of the chance to call attention to:

Absence of clearness or deficient data : Really we are getting befuddled as a result of inadequate lucidity . Illustration: lucidity about the issue , our need. why we need or we don't have a clue about the best possible reason about our activity and so on. It can restricting YOUR convictions cloud reality and deliver enduring. That reason bias and the sentiment being trapped.

Accessibility of more choice for same reason: it happens when numerous comparable decisions are accessible. Having excessively numerous around similarly great choices is rationally depleting in light of the fact that every choice must be weighed against contrasting options to choose the best one. having no way out outcomes in low fulfillment. At first more decisions prompt more fulfillment, yet as the quantity of decisions expands it at that point pinnacles and individuals tend to feel more weight, disarray, and conceivably disappointment with their decision

Absence of fixation: as a rule we may feel a heaps of inconvenience to focusing on a specific occupation or work. It implies being effortlessly diverted by unimportant considerations or sounds, thinking that its difficult to tune in to others in a discussion, sitting above subtle elements that could make you lose center and not finishing errands or ventures. it is the fundamental explanation behind Gloom, Lack of sleep and so forth. That likewise effect of our basic leadership capacity. After that we gets befuddled

The most widely recognized reasons for sudden disarray are: an absence of oxygen in the blood (hypoxia) – the reason could be anything from an extreme asthma assault to an issue with the lungs or heart. a disease anyplace in the body, particularly in elderly individuals. a stroke or TIA ("scaled down stroke
Confusion 

In next article i shall discuss how to deal with it..
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March 10, 2018


What is time ?

Time means the progress of events, and also the way in which this progress of events is measured .Time can be measured objectively using clocks or the movement of the seasons, for instance. These concepts of time tell us when to get up to go to work, when to meet with friends etc .Time is a word with a Germanic origin. The old English and Germanic words ‘tide’ and ‘tima’ both mean time. However, they also mean tide (as in the tides of the sea).

How time is valuable in life?

A lot of people believe money is their most important resource but we think they're misguided. Time is a special resource that you cannot store or save for later use. Everyone has the exact same amount of time each day. You can get more money through various avenues but once time is gone, it's gone forever. You can't buy more or borrow more, so time is a limited resource that expires every day.

Time is invaluable. In-fact, time is more valuable than money. Time is very valuable partly for the reason that we are all only allotted a certain amount of time in our lives, and so we need to make sure that we use it wisely. Nothing can stop the flow of time. Time once past cannot be brought back by any means.


Then how to manage time


Well, there’s a popular time management analogy called the “rock, pebbles, and sand story.”


philosophy professor stood before his class with some items on the table in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks, about 2 inches in diameter.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks.


He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.

He then asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “Yes.”

“Now,” said the professor, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things – your family, your partner, your health, your children – things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter – like your job, your house, your car.

The sand is everything else. The small stuff.”

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued “there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take your partner out dancing. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party and fix the disposal.

Take care of the rocks first – the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”


Our thinking pattern

Our behavior can be defined by two different zones in the brain: “thinking” and “reactive” brain. The reactive part is the oldest. It goes back to the times when ancient hunters had to escape the saber-toothed tiger. Nothing has changed until today (not counting the fact that tigers became extinct). The reactive brain triggers “fight-or-flight” mechanism and other automatic reactions that let us survive. It also occupies the larger part of our brain — which helps us understand why it is so powerful . The thinking brain allows us to reflect and take decisions consciously. However, this rational part won’t work properly if we are threatened, stressed or gripped by emotions. It also takes more energy and time than the reactive brain. Literally, it requires effort to think


When we are faced with urgent tasks, our reactive brain steps in. We rush doing them without much thought. The sense of accomplishment makes us feel extremely good. This can evolve to a real “urgency addiction”. What’s bad about this?


Urgent tasks are not necessarily important. We start doing things simply because they seem to be critical. We like feeling busy and energetic, and our brain supports this feeling by producing dopamine. When things calm down it turns out that we have wasted the whole day on trivial matters.


Time management matrix :

In Quadrant 1 (top left) we have important, urgent items – items that need to be dealt with immediately.Example: Family Emergencies, Real, hard deadlines for important projects


In Quadrant 2 (top right) : we have important, but not urgent items – items that are important but do not require your immediate attention, and need to be planned for. This quadrant is highlighted because Covey emphasizes this is the quadrant that we should focus on for long term achievement of goals. Example: Exercise, your career path, Maintaining relationships with family and friends



In Quadrant 3 (bottom left) : we have urgent, but unimportant items – items which should be minimized or eliminated. These are the time sucks, the “poor planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part” variety of tasks.Example: phone call, email, travel


In Quadrant 4 (bottom right): we have unimportant and also not urgent items – items that don’t have to be done anytime soon, perhaps add little to no value and also should be minimized or eliminated. These are often trivial time wastersExanple: watching tv, movie, playing game on pc , unnecessary waste time in social media etc.

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March 09, 2018

Lord Gautama Budha quote to manage stress

1“Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.”Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.”

2. “You will not be punished for your anger; you will be punished by your anger.” When you’re angry, your body reacts much the same way it does when you’re experiencing any other stress reaction. Your anger triggers your body to take a defensive stance, readying you for any danger that may come your way.When your anger is intense and frequent, the physiological effects can be harmful. Your health is at risk. And any or all of those nasty stress-related illnesses and disorders can become linked to excessive anger
3. “We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.”
The first clause is different: “Our life is shaped by our mind” is now “We are shaped by our thoughts.” And “Joy follows a pure thought” is now ” When the mind is pure, joy follows.”
“We become what we think” and “What you think, you become” do not reflect the content of the opening verses of the Dhammapada.What the text actually says is “Mind precedes all mental states. Mind is their chief; they are all mind-wrought.”The original isn’t about “thoughts” or “thinking” as a causal factor, but about “mind,” which includes not just thinking but also our feelings and volitions. The original doesn’t say that we become what we think about, but that the mind’s habitual cognitive and volitional patterns shape the kind of mental states we experience.If we continually respond to life with thoughts and emotions that are aversive or grasping, we’ll experience greater suffering. If we respond with mindfulness, patience, and compassion, we’ll experience greater joy.Ideas such as “We become what we think” and “What you think, you become,” tie into a western preoccupation with the intellect. Descartes, for example, says “I think, therefore I am,” not “I feel, therefore I am,” or “I experience, therefore I am.” Self-help manuals encourage us to “Think and grow rich,” or to engage in “positive thinking.” Some studies, however, have shown that positive thinking can backfire, resulting in depression. Affirmations such as “I’m successful and people like me,” if not actually true, cause cognitive dissonance and merely remind us of our short-comings.

According to study on stress management Here is some technique to helpful to reduce stress
Drinking good amount of water reduce stress: Studies have shown that dehydration leads to higher cortisol levels—the stress hormone—making it harder to deal with everyday issues. By staying hydrated you will be better equipped to deal everyday problems.

Healthy Diet plan can reduce stress :One reason busy, stressed people tend to gain weight is that they more often eat fast food, or go out to eat. This is understandable; after a busy day running around, you may not have time to come home and cook something from scratch. But healthy eating at home can help you stave off extra pounds when stressed, as meals you make are usually much better for you. (They’re healthier than fast food, and usually the portions are smaller and lower in fat than what you find in a restaurant.) Cooking at home can save you money, too, which may indirectly decrease your stress level by putting you under less financial strain.
Learn how to say "no.": When you say no to a new commitment, you're honoring your existing obligations and ensuring that you'll be able to devote high-quality time to them.Saying no can allow you to try new things. Just because you've always helped plan the company softball tournament doesn't mean you have to do it forever. Saying no gives you time to pursue other interests.Always saying yes isn't healthy. When you're over committed and under too much stress, you're more likely to feel run-down and possibly get sick.
Avoid people who stress you out. If someone consistently causes stress in your life, limit the amount of time you spend with that person, or end the relationship.
Take control of your environment. If the evening news makes you anxious, turn off the TV. If traffic makes you tense, take a longer but less-traveled route. If going to the market is an unpleasant chore do your grocery shopping online.
Exercise regularly. Targeted exercise goes a long way toward freeing your body of stress hormones and increasing your endorphin levels - responsible for feelings of happiness. Carve out time during your busy day to exercise to both keep your body healthy and as a natural outlet for your stress.

Get enough sleep. Give your body the sleep it wants, and your stress levels will take a nosedive. Sleep is a mechanism by which your body recuperates and restores its energy reserves. If you're not getting enough sleep, your body will use stress to keep you active and alert in the absence of stored energy.
Pare down your to-do list. Analyze your schedule, responsibilities, and daily tasks. If you’ve got too much on your plate, drop tasks that aren’t truly necessary to the bottom of the list or eliminate them entirely.


Express your feelings instead of bottling them up. If something or someone is bothering you, be more assertive and communicate your concerns in an open and respectful way. If you've got an exam to study for and your chatty roommate just got home, say up front that you only have five minutes to talk. If you don't voice your feelings, resentment will build and the stress will increase.

Be willing to compromise. When you ask someone to change their behavior, be willing to do the same. If you both are willing to bend at least a little, you'll have a good chance of finding a happy middle ground.

Create a balanced schedule. All work and no play is a recipe for burnout. Try to find a balance between work and family life, social activities and solitary pursuits, daily responsibilities and downtime.

Reframe problems. Try to view stressful situations from a more positive perspective. Rather than fuming about a traffic jam, look at it as an opportunity to pause and regroup, listen to your favorite radio station, or enjoy some alone time.

Look at the big picture. Take perspective of the stressful situation. Ask yourself how important it will be in the long run. Will it matter in a month? A year? Is it really worth getting upset over? If the answer is no, focus your time and energy elsewhere.

Adjust your standards. Perfectionism is a major source of avoidable stress. Stop setting yourself up for failure by demanding perfection. Set reasonable standards for yourself and others, and learn to be okay with “good enough.”

Practice gratitude. When stress is getting you down, take a moment to reflect on all the things you appreciate in your life, including your own positive qualities and gifts. This simple strategy can help you keep things in perspective.
Some sources of stress are unavoidable. You can’t prevent or change stressors such as the death of a loved one, a serious illness, or a national recession. In such cases, the best way to cope with stress is to accept things as they are. Acceptance may be difficult, but in the long run, it’s easier than railing against a situation you can’t change.
Look for the upside. When facing major challenges, try to look at them as opportunities for personal growth. If your own poor choices contributed to a stressful situation, reflect on them and learn from your mistakes.
Learn to forgive. Accept the fact that we live in an imperfect world and that people make mistakes. Let go of anger and resentments. Free yourself from negative energy by forgiving and moving on.
Share your feelings. Expressing what you’re going through can be very cathartic, even if there’s nothing you can do to alter the stressful situation. Talk to a trusted friend or make an appointment with a therapist.
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March 08, 2018

what is stress?


Stress is your body's way of responding to any kind of demand. It can be caused by both good and bad experiences. When people feel stressed by something going on around them, their bodies react by releasing chemicals into the blood. These chemicals give people more energy and strength, which can be a good thing if their stress is caused by physical danger. But this can also be a bad thing, if their stress is in response to something emotional and there is no outlet for this extra energy and strength. This class will discuss different causes of stress, how stress affects you, the difference between 'good' or 'positive' stress and 'bad' or 'negative' stress, and some common facts about how stress affects people today.


Various stress reason
1. A natural reaction

Have you ever found yourself with sweaty hands on a first date or felt your
heart pound during a scary movie? Then you know you can feel stress in
both your mind and body.
This automatic response developed in our ancient ancestors as a way to
protect them from predators and other threats. Faced with danger, the body
kicks into gear, flooding the body with hormones that elevate your heart
rate, increase your blood pressure, boost your energy and prepare you to
deal with the problem.
These days, you're not likely to face the threat of being eaten. But you
probably do confront multiple challenges every day, such as meeting
deadlines, paying bills and juggling childcare that make your body react the
same way. As a result, your body's natural alarm system — the “fight or
flight” response — may be stuck in the on position. And that can have
serious consequences for your health.


2.Pressure points

Even short-lived, minor stress can have an impact. You might get a
stomach-ache before you have to give a presentation, for example. More
major acute stress, whether caused by a fight with your spouse or an event
like an earthquake or terrorist attack, can have an even bigger impact.

Multiple studies have shown that these sudden emotional stresses —
especially anger — can trigger heart attacks, arrhythmias and even sudden
death. Although this happens mostly in people who already have heart
disease, some people don't know they have a problem until acute stress
causes a heart attack or something worse.

3.Chronic stress

When stress starts interfering with your ability to live a normal life for an
extended period, it becomes even more dangerous. The longer the stress
lasts, the worse it is for both your mind and body. You might feel fatigued,
unable to concentrate or irritable for no good reason, for example. But
chronic stress causes wear and tear on your body, too.
Stress can make existing problems worse. In one study, for example, about
half the participants saw improvements in chronic headaches after learning
how to stop the stress-producing habit of “catastrophizing,” or constantly
thinking negative thoughts about their pain. Chronic stress may also cause
disease, either because of changes in your body or the overeating,
smoking and other bad habits people use to cope with stress. Job strain —
high demands coupled with low decision-making latitude — is associated
with increased risk of coronary disease, for example. Other forms of
chronic stress, such as depression and low levels of social support, have
also been implicated in increased cardiovascular risk. And once you're sick,
stress can also make it harder to recover. One analysis of past studies, for
instance, suggests that cardiac patients with so-called “Type D”
personalities — characterized by chronic distress — face higher risks of
bad outcomes.

is Stress is helpful of not ?


If you are suffering from extreme stress or long-term stress, your body will
eventually wear itself down. But sometimes, small amounts of stress can
actually be good.
Understanding your stress level is important. If nothing in your life causes
you any stress or excitement, you may become bored or may not be living
up to your potential. If everything in your life, or large portions of your life,
cause you stress, you may experience health or mental problems that will
make your behavior worse.
Recognizing when you are stressed and managing your stress can greatly
improve your life. Some short-term stress -- for example what you feel
before an important job presentation, test, interview, or sporting event --
may give you the extra energy you need to perform at your best. But
long-term stress -- for example constant worry over your job, school, or
family -- may actually drain your energy and your ability to perform


In Next article we will discuss about stress management according to Lord Gautama Buddha
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